Hello, I am Manisha Tibrewal. A Cafe member for almost 6 months now.
I am emotional, talkative person, who loves exploring new ideas in life. I started my journey as a homemaker, and after 23 years it took a beautiful turn and I started a venture Naisha. Happy with this extra feather to my crown.
I love to write and read always, this lockdown made me blogger too. Career after family has helped me immensely to grow my overall personality.. And overcome my fears…
We have compiled a list of must read books with the help of CAFE members which reflect all genres. We hope it helps when you want to choose, which book to buy. If you have been moved by a book, do share it with us, and we will add to the list!!
A few years ago, I was told this story of a very strong and skilled woodcutter who asked for a job with a timber merchant. He got the job with a good salary and decent work conditions. And so, the woodcutter was determined to do his best for the boss. His boss gave him an axe and on his first day, the woodcutter chopped down 15 trees. The boss was pleased and said, “Well done, good work!”
Highly motivated, the woodcutter tried harder the next day, but he only could bring down 13 trees. The third day, he tried even harder, but he was only able to bring down 11 trees. Day after day, he tried harder but cut down a smaller number of trees. “I must be losing my strength,” the man thought. He apologised to the boss, claiming he could not understand why.
“When was the last time you sharpened your axe?” the boss asked.
“Sharpen? I had no time to sharpen my axe. I have been too busy cutting down trees…”
He sharpened his axe and immediately was back to felling 15 trees a day. And since that conversation, he begins the day by sharpening his axe.
Most of us are too busy trying to achieve goals and forget to take time to learn and grow. Many assume that learning ends at school and so sharpening our axe is not a priority.
So, what exactly is sharpening the axe? Dr Stephen Covey, who popularised the term, believes that it means “increasing your personal production capacity by daily self-care and self-maintenance”.
The woodcutter only becomes more productive by sharpening his blade, analysing new woodcutting techniques, exercising to become stronger, and learning from other woodcutters.
Sharing of knowledge increases learnings manifold.
So now how can we sharpen our axe??
Sharpening the axe is an activity. Here are examples:
Read a book every day- it really helps to improve a lot of things- vocabulary, subject knowledge, thinking power, creativity.
Get out of your comfort zone by changing jobs. A new job forces you to learn.
Have a deep conversation with someone you find interesting. Sharpen your axe through that interaction. Everyone has something to teach.
Pick up a new hobby. Stretch yourself physically, mentally or emotionally.
Study something new. Always keep learning. Google is an ocean of free knowledge.
Overcome a specific fear you have or quit a bad habit.
Have a daily exercise routine or take part in some competition.
Ask for feedback and get a mentor.
Learn from people who inspire you.
Watch interviews of great leaders.
Attend seminars and events with learning opportunity.
Be member of groups where learning culture is promoted.
You have to do it as often as possible. But if you’re so focused on your task at hand with no time for discussion, introspection, or study, you’re not really moving forward. Just as a car needs to be refuelled with petrol to keep it going, we likewise need refuelling through learning.
After sharpening the axe, use it or all is in vain.
As I’m quarantined and homebound in the safe environment of my house, I realize that it’s all of the apparently ‘negative things’ that happen to us which give us a huge desire to change things. The magnetic fire of desire gives us the strength and determination to change our life. And this fire in my belly lead me to Career After Family Enterprise fondly called ‘CAFÉ’.
As I write this, I’m full of gratitude and happiness. I’m glad to have met this amazing, enterprising woman ‘Kavita Agarwal’ (Founder of CAFÉ) who gave so many women like me the opportunity to harness their purpose and passion under the ‘Lead your dreams’ entrepreneurship course.
The entire mentoring model was based on the 3 pillars & focal points:
Inner growth- To focus on imperfect progress over one-time perfection.
Impact boosters- Consume less and implement more
Income generators- Competition is good. It only means that your niche is viable and in-demand. And there is only one way to stand out from the crowd- by being you. No one can copy your uniqueness and your vision.
We gained immense knowledge under the mentorship and guidance of some of the finest mentors in the country. Some of the key learning from this course are:
Clarity, commitment, consistency, effective systems and habits is imperative to accomplish your goals.
It is ok to think differently and challenge the popular narrative. Develop confidence to speak your point of view.
Carefully study the journey of your role models, learn from their stories and then restructure your story. Break out of your comfort zone.
Going ‘Digital’ is the need of the hour! Build an emotional connect with your client to make your brand flourish. Be open to collaboration, reinvent your brand and reposition your strategy.
Network to get work! Build meaningful connections and be visible in the personal and professional front. Add value to whatever you are doing.
Hold yourself accountable by maintaining focus and discipline throughout the process. When you truly engage with the world, opportunity would not just be a mirage but the oasis that you build in your own desert.
The key factor to performing well in life and in every arena is the ability to control the quality and quantity of your ‘internal dialogue’. Performance is potential minus interference. Small baby steps and small successes will help you move forward with confidence and with ability to navigate the path towards your big dreams!
Let these takeaways be an inspiration to live your story exactly the way you want to!
“I see life almost like one long University education that I never had-
Everyday I’m learning something new.” – Richard Branson